Was reading an interesting piece in the Bangalore Times today. In between all the Manoviraj Khosla and suresh(?) dembla seen here and here, they had managed to squeeze in a piece on physical intimacy as a means to express warmth. The story, in the standard TOI format of checking out the bangalore buzz on something reported in some study in the west, was interesting. It talked about how more and more people are being transiently physically intimate to express their love and affection. Now this isnt really rocket science, as long as one doesnt refer to an involved body part as a 'rocket'. cheesy! but i knew someone who often referred to IT as that. that apart, the article set me wondering.
Isnt it really true? i mean does it not happen SO many times when you just want to be intimate with someone who to you is looking extremely vulnerable. crushed. Not just comfort them with a hug or a squeeze, but actually be naked with them, and hold them, kiss them, mingle your skin with theirs. And not in a pity sex way. Heck, I guess I'd want to kiss every woman who cries in front of me, attractive or not. I think, its about KNOWING that sex comforts us. all of us. and that yes having sex is about orgasms and boobs and butt and lips, but its also about being nice and kind and compassionate. It IS about gratifying one's physical self, but is also about gratifying a part of one's innerself, the one that feels happy when it knows that warmth has been spread and shared.
Is sex then also Charity? like hey you know i run a school for disabled children, work with the Gates' foundation and fuck the needy. too many questions, too much thought. but its nice to realize that alongwith the 'in love' sex and the 'need a woman today to get off' sex, there is also this 'spread warmth' sex. sowing oats far and wide is then really just spreading warmth all around. hehe
Reminds me of that immortal line from 'The Departed' - 'Your vulnerability right now is freaking me out'
Isnt it really true? i mean does it not happen SO many times when you just want to be intimate with someone who to you is looking extremely vulnerable. crushed. Not just comfort them with a hug or a squeeze, but actually be naked with them, and hold them, kiss them, mingle your skin with theirs. And not in a pity sex way. Heck, I guess I'd want to kiss every woman who cries in front of me, attractive or not. I think, its about KNOWING that sex comforts us. all of us. and that yes having sex is about orgasms and boobs and butt and lips, but its also about being nice and kind and compassionate. It IS about gratifying one's physical self, but is also about gratifying a part of one's innerself, the one that feels happy when it knows that warmth has been spread and shared.
Is sex then also Charity? like hey you know i run a school for disabled children, work with the Gates' foundation and fuck the needy. too many questions, too much thought. but its nice to realize that alongwith the 'in love' sex and the 'need a woman today to get off' sex, there is also this 'spread warmth' sex. sowing oats far and wide is then really just spreading warmth all around. hehe
Reminds me of that immortal line from 'The Departed' - 'Your vulnerability right now is freaking me out'
3 comments:
Wise.
deep! errr.. i mean, thought! :)
i wudnt go on a mission to "spread the warmth" .. but i really think it would be such a wonderful world that way!
good thought!
never gave words to such feelings. and when i read this, it did sound so natural, so very obvious.
good stuff.
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